Widows in India:
My children threw me
out of the house
Vrindavan, India - Self-immolation, sati, on a husband's pyre may have been banned in India, but life for many widows in India is still disheartening as they are shunned by their communities and abandoned by their families.
"I used to wash dishes and clothes in people's house to earn money, but the moment they heard that I am a widow, I was thrown out without any notice," said 85-year-oldManu Ghosh, living in Vrindavan, a city in the Northern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.
Vrindavan is home to more than 20,000 widows, and over the years, many shelters for widows run by the government, private enterprises and NGOs have mushroomed in the city. The city, which is considered holy by Hindus, has become known as the 'City of Widows'.
"I had to sleep on the street as even my family abandoned me after my husband's death. I was married off to him when I was 11 years old and he was 40.
"My daughter died of malnutrition as I could not give her food since nobody wanted to help a widow.
"After her death, I decided to come to Vrindavan. A woman should die before her husband's death so that she doesn't have to live through hell like this," Gosh says.
The women often live in acute poverty and are ostracised by society due to various superstitions - even the shadow of a widow can wreak havoc and bring bad luck, people believe. Lack of education and any source of income forces them to beg on streets and many turn to prostitution for survival.
"My children threw me out of the house after my husband died," says Manuka Dasi. "I try to earn money by singing devotional songs in temple and manage to get one meal for the day. I am just waiting to die so that I can be out of this life of misery."
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Thousands of widows, most of them disowned and abandoned by
their families, live in deplorable living conditions in the cities of Vrindavan
and Mathura. [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
'I was barely nine years old when I was forced to marry a
40-year-old man,' said Pingela Maiti, 85. 'He died within a few years, and I
returned to my maternal home as a child widow. They made me shave my head, and
I was forced to beg for food. I ran away from that life and moved to Mathura to
be with the widows. I found others like me here and a purpose in life.' Mathura
is another holy city in Uttar Pradesh where widows have found refuge. [Showkat
Shafi/Al Jazeera]
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Maya Rani, 80, says: 'I have no one in this world. I am all
alone. Being a widow is the biggest curse for a woman. Throughout my life, I
have longed for respect and some dignity.' [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
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Forced to leave their homes, these widows find solace in each
other's company. They share rooms in the shelter and try to live like a family.
The shelters are cramped with dingy rooms and become these women's homes for
life. [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
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Rada Dasi, 82, said, 'It's a lifelong sentence of humiliation
and struggle. I have been in this temple for more than 60 years, and now I
don't remember anything about my home-town. I wait for death every day so that
I get some relief.' [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
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'My husband died. I had one son and three daughters. I left them
with my parents as I didn't want them to suffer because of me,' 90-year-old
Lolita Debnath remembered. 'Everybody taunts widows. In all these years, my son
came just once to see if I was alive.' [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
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| 'My children abandoned me after the death of my husband,'
67-year-old Subudra Dasi said. 'I walked, hitched rides from truck drivers,
slept on roads, and finally reached Vrindavan. These widows are my family, and
here I lead a life of dignity.' [Showkat Shafi/Al Jazeera]
Response:
This is article does not use conventional techniques to convey its point.
Instead, the majority this article utilizes photo journalism to voice the
unheard stories of these widows. Although, the first part of the article acts
like a lead to introduce violation of human rights widows in India have
been undergoing for a long time. It is necessary to bring such an issue to
the global light because it is a crime against mankind when human rights
are not being protected. However, this particular case in India is very
complicated because culture and traditions are carefully intertwined with the
abuse of the widows. With that being said, globalization is an essential tool
in improving aspects of cultures that are harmful to member's of a society.
Now turning the focus to the article, the journalist first makes the assumption
that the audience has prior knowledge of Indian culture. In the first sentence,
sati or self-immolation is used casually. Personally, I had to conduct research
to discover the meaning of this ancient Indian practice. Other similar references
are made within the article, such as mentioning the holy city, Vrindavan with
little background information. As I read this article, I detected little to no bias
because the journalist first explained the cultural importance there is to shunning
widows from society. He continues to show vividly through the picture-quote
combination the horrors and devastation this brings to widows. Some of the
widows would probably turn to the practice of sati due to their current
inhumane living conditions. Since this article does not provide a practical
solution on how to stop this issue, its main goal seems to be to spread
awareness and ensure these widows voices are heard. The underlying tone
this article portrays is that not everything in culture is right, and the aspects
that are causing more harm than good should be stopped. Finally, it also
encourages the work of NGOs and private enterprises that are providing aid
to isolated widows.
Source:
Shafi, Showkat. "Widows in India: My Children Threw Me out of the House."Aljazeera.
2016 Al Jazeera Media Network, 6 Mar. 2016. Web. 7 Mar. 2016.
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